Answers To Burning Questions
My phone buzzed on my nightstand, and I looked over and saw my oldest son’s name. I was shocked he was calling me late in the evening, but I excitedly picked it up. The somber tone of his voice instantly shot tension through my body. I know him all too well. He was casually talking to me, but I could hear pain in his voice.
He had recently moved into his own place and had some big life changes as well. Some good, some not so good. He didn’t have to tell me that he was lonely and hurting. His voice was screaming it at me. We talked for a bit, I encouraged him, and we set up a brunch date for that weekend. I laid my head back down and should have instantly gone to sleep, but I couldn’t get that tension to leave my body. I just kept worrying about him even though there was absolutely nothing I could do about it lying there with my PJs on!
Has this wild question ever kept you up at night: Will my kids be okay? It’s the question that tugs at your heart during every school drop-off, bedtime story, somber-toned phone call, and hard day. The truth is, we can’t always control every situation or shield our kids from every challenge—but we can hold onto hope and the truth that they will be okay.
When I can’t help but go to battle with that daunting question, I like to replace it with two questions that I can answer with certainty.
Question 1. Am I alone in my worry?
A: Absolutely not. God, your creator and their creator, loves your children more than you do. He is right there next to you as you worry, yet he’s not worried! This truth changed everything for me. As moms, we love our children fiercely. We sacrifice, we show up, and we give our all. But even on our best days, our love is just a glimpse of the boundless love God has for them.
God created your children with intention and purpose. He knows every hair on their heads and every detail of their futures. When you feel overwhelmed or like you’re not doing enough, remember this: God’s got them. You’re not parenting alone; you’re co-parenting with the creator of the universe, the creator of your children.
This doesn’t mean everything will always be easy or perfect. Life is messy, and kids will face challenges. But knowing God is watching over them, loving them, and guiding them provides a peace that nothing else can. Take a deep breath and trust he is filling in the gaps where you can’t.
Question 2. Am I enough for my children?
A: Your child only needs one safe adult! Here’s something many moms don’t realize: Children don’t need a perfect parent or a traditional family structure to thrive. What they need is one safe, loving adult who consistently shows up for them. And mama, that’s you.
Being a safe adult means being present. It means creating an environment where your child feels loved, valued, and accepted for who they are. It’s not about having all the answers or never making mistakes. It’s about making your child feel secure, no matter what life throws at them.
Research shows that having just one reliable, nurturing adult can have an incredible impact on a child’s emotional and mental well-being. So don’t underestimate the power of your presence, even on the days you feel like you’re falling short. Every hug, every encouraging word, every “I’m here for you” builds a foundation your child can stand on for life.
Trust God’s love for your kids and lean into the power of being that one safe adult. Together, those truths create a strong foundation for your children to grow, thrive, and become everything they were created to be. Start asking the right questions and give yourself some better rest.
So yes, mama, your kids will be okay. And so will you!
